I’d never heard of Sheryl Sandberg till I came across her inspiring TED talk a month ago, I’d been to a conference where a UN Gender leader spoke about the need for more woman leaders to provide balance in the political landscape. I had never been particularly interested in the “gender fight” and considered myself “anti feminist” as I liked men – a lot, and frankly, disagreed with a lot of the judgement and negativity provided by other woman. But thinking about it closer, I was part of the problem and not the solution. I think fundamentally I still think differently to a lot of woman I’ve met, but really, we’re all struggling with the same things. It’s time to support each other, assume the best of each others intentions, treat each other with respect and move forward with achieving our dreams.
Sheryl’s book and talk are timely to remind us the fight for equality is not yet over. The amount of woman in strong leadership positions is far outweighed by men, and men taking on household duties are still victimised for the choice and are severely under represented.
Never one to want to go down the “gender excuse” path I had never really considered the gender injustices I had seen around me, especially in the real estate world. I’m not even sure those creating the gender divide realise they are indeed unconsciously not moving woman forward as fast as their male colleagues. In the executive assistant world, it was assumed if you were female you weren’t looking to become a successful agent, but if you came into that role as a man – it was assumed you wouldn’t be there for long.
Sheryl has reopened the debate, but made it clear she’s looking for equality for both sides of the equation. Her words “sit at the table” ring in my ear daily, it was something I always did as an 18 year old, but as I got older and more unsure of myself I needed to be reminded that my opinion and thoughts counted. She doesn’t for one second suggest the male should take over all household responsibility, she looks for balance and support from both partners in each others goals. For me personally, none of the men in my life have ever been anything but supportive of who I am and where I want to go, they all cook better than me(!) and certainly don’t hold anything against woman in leadership positions. It’s women that need to start supporting each other, and helping to lead the way for others in the workplace.
In real estate, I think we have come a long way from a mostly male dominated industry. There are many successful woman agents, and owners. However, there is still a need for a greater balance between the high earning roles and the support roles, and mentorship programs to help grow and encourage career possibilities.
Gemma Duff 